Why is it that the worst messages are often shared by women? Why is it that it’s often social media accounts run by women, and books written by women, which are the most adamant about preaching obligation sex, women’s unilateral submission, women having subordinate...
Thank you to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post God isn’t glorified when women stay in marriages where they’re abused Too many women have sat across from church leaders, bruised and broken, only to be told they must "bear their...
With thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post! When you need help with your marriage, where do you go? We've been talking on social media a lot over the last week about unscrupulous people putting themselves forward as "marriage...
Toxic marriage advice hurts those in abusive marriages. But it also hurts those in so-called good marriages–because bad advice is just plain bad advice. Here at Bare Marriage we often critique marriage advice that’s given in evangelical circles, showing how that...
Does the Bible say divorce for abuse is okay? Lots of churches, and denominations, say no. You can only divorce for adultery, they say. But is that true? I've been wanting to do this podcast for a long time, and was prompted again when Naghmeh Panahi (who has also...
Don't let people use your house for a birthday party without telling your spouse. That's a pretty good rule for life! And right now, over on Threads, thousands upon thousands of people worldwide have been invested in Birthday Party Lady's story of how she held her...
The medium is the message. And when it comes to Christian patriarchy, the medium is super pretty right now! Marshall McLuhan, a Canadian sociologist, said that famous “medium is the message” line sixty years ago now. He was explaining how the medium that we hear a...
Who should we ultimately follow? I'm wrapping up my submission series soon, and today's post gets to the heart of the matter: too often we tell women that once they're married, their husband stands in the place of Jesus in their lives. On Monday we talked about how...
If I were to ask you what it means to submit to your husband, what would you say? When I’ve asked that question at marriage groups, people hem and haw and then eventually come up with something like this:When we’re disagreeing about something, the husband gets the...
Let's talk about dating and finding a mate! This is the subject that Rebecca and I tend to avoid like the plague, because we feel very ill-equipped to talk on it. We both married very young; we didn't spend a lot of time single; and to make it sound like we understand...
Let's look at His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley But first... One of the things we’re passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed 40,000...
How do Christian marriage books harm? We talk a lot at Bare Marriage about how Christian marriage books can harm people, often by teaching toxic things about staying in abusive marriages, giving sex on demand, or perpetuating teachings that we know are correlated with...
What if marriage could actually be a partnership? So much of Christian marriage literature is centered around the strange idea that God ordained wives to fulfill one role in the relationship (submission and housework), while men were created to fill another...
In marriage, should husbands make the final decision if the couple can’t reach agreement? Many Christians would say yes. In fact, in our survey of 20,000 women that we ran for The Great Sex Rescue, 39.4% of respondents agreed with that statement. Many Christians who...
Evangelical men can't get married. And it's all women's fault, according to Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. It's a "crisis", a "five-alarm fire". It's bad. In his podcast "The Briefing", he recently did some commentary on a Wall Street...