Do men naturally know more about sex than women? On a recent Facebook post, still deeply bothered by that infamous clip from Josh Howerton, I asked this question, “Do we think men "naturally" know more about sex than women do? And that men are equipped to teach...
So a funny thing happened to me last week regarding that Josh Howerton video... First, I should be thankful I wasn't feeling particularly well on Thursday. Episode 230 of the Bare Marriage podcast dropped, where Jay Stringer and I were talking about a terrible clip by...
Is the honeymoon all about the guy FINALLY getting sex? Nope. But too often evangelicals talk like this--and it has grave consequences. Licensed counselor Jay Stringer sent me a video a few weeks ago that he was really concerned about. SBC Megachurch pastor Josh...
Is sex really painful the first time? That’s one of the most common questions I get asked from engaged women waiting for the wedding night. How much is going to hurt? What should I expect? This month I’m going to look at some “myths” that we often have around sex....
Have we missed the boat on sexual integrity? I was hoping to do a series on honoring God with a new sexual ethic, but I overpromised. Keith and I have our marriage book due in March, and I’m frantically trying to write it, and I spent so much of Monday and Tuesday of...
Jane Austen has some great marriage advice! Or at least, some wonderful advice on HOW TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE. And for the last two podcasts of the season before we take a month off, we decided to record something that we wanted to talk about, something that we talk about...
What if men are finding it hard to find a mate because women are getting higher standards? That's the claim in a new article in Psychology Today that's going crazy on social media right now: And I checked out the references the post uses, and they appear to hold up! A...
Can we talk about how our messages about a woman's role can actually undermine her safety? Just a quick catch-up for today's post! I want to share a few things I've seen on social media and then throw this open for discussion. I'm taking a bit of a downtime this week...
Lots of people believe a lot of dumb things about marriage! I'm in the middle of moving our site to our new Bare Marriage domain (we should be up and running by the end of the month!), and we're only taking posts from 2018 and forward with us, leaving over 1000 posts...
Our attachment style that we learn in childhood affects our "love styles" as adults. I'm a big fan of the book How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich. It's one of the few Christian marriage books that I can recommend wholeheartedly. How We Love is based on...
On Fridays I like to take a look at what's been happening on social media this week, because often most of the writing/thoughts end up on Facebook or Instagram, and if you mostly read the blog you may miss them. So let's go: Let's talk Kissing Before Marriage! I...
Do you feel safer in Christian spaces or non-Christian ones? That can be a hard one to answer because there are so many variables, but yesterday I set off a firestorm with my post that only 33.7% of married, evangelical men meet our four criteria for being sexually...
I've often heard pastors say that the only explicit reason given for marriage in the Bible is that it is better to marry than to burn with passion. The context they're quoting is from 1 Corinthians 7:Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to...
I have a lot of single readers on the blog (and I'm so glad you're here!), and recently a woman wrote in wondering if she was being too picky. Her letter is long, but it's an important one. She writes: I'm nearly 26 and have never dated anyone. Sure I've had a...
How best can you help a couple you know to start marriage well? I've got to tell you--I really want people to feel passion! And so I write all of these posts trying to help people unravel marriage problems and get back to the passion, but it's occurred to me over the...