You shouldn't prioritize sex in your marriage. That's how we open chapter four of our new book The Marriage You Want. Instead, we argue, you should prioritize the ingredients of great sex. I'm going to talking about this further in a FREE webinar with Jay Stringer...
Is it fair to compare romance novels to porn? Quite often in comment sections in our posts about porn, or even in pastor's sermons or various websites for single women, the topic of romance novels = porn will be raised. Men will often say, "sure, you call out guys for...
Why are so many evangelical authors trying to convince married women not to have sexual boundaries? In episode 260 of the Bare Marriage podcast, that dropped last week, Rebecca and I had one of my favourite convos so far, when we looked at how too many evangelical...
What is the story that Christian marriage books are writing? We know what they're telling--it's right there in the pages! But what if the books we read are also a part of writing our own stories? It's Rebecca here today (Sheila's down with COVID, she's doing fine...
What do you do when your husband is in the ministry and you catch him using porn? I wrote about this years ago, and wasn't planning on writing about it again, but last night I had this overwhelming urge to post this on Facebook:If you are married to someone in...
Let's talk obligation sex--and how it's a terrible libido and marriage killer! This July I'm rerunning some of my favourite podcast episodes from about a year and a half ago or two years ago, to help those who have recently joined the podcast or blog catch up and make...
Has Hollywood totally messed up our sex lives? I talk a lot about how evangelical teaching has messed up our expectations around sex. But let's face it--a lot of those expectations are in movies and shows, too!Behind the scenes at the blog we're getting ready to move...
For every guy who has ever thought, "my wife hates sex," or, even worse, "my wife hates ME," I want to point you to some practical solutions. Usually I write this blog for women, but I do have a fair number of men who read it, and I get emails all the time from men...
It's the wrap up podcast for our What's Killing Women's Libido series! At the end of the month we like to record a podcast that's a little more aimed at men, and today we thought we'd wrap up what can cause women's libidos to plummet--and what men can do about it!...
Adults need bedtimes, too. Seriously. I have talked to thousands of couples over the last few years at marriage conferences and at events, and I keep hearing stories about how "we never talk", or "we never do anything together", or even, "our sex life is almost...
For so many of us, sex is the greatest source of tension in our marriage. Now, sometimes it's for nefarious reasons, like a husband who uses pornography (or a wife who uses pornography). Sometimes there has been major betrayal, or the marriage is just really on the...
The harm from spanking doesn't always come from the spanking being done in anger, or by terrible parents. Sometimes the harm comes from good parents who spanked "in love", exactly how the church taught them to. When I wrote about the harms from spanking a few weeks...
Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I've shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000 children...
Just because you have a responsive libido doesn't mean you don't have a libido! I make this point repeatedly in our revamped Boost Your Libido course that launches next Monday, but I really want to drive this home today: Just because you don't have what we call a...
Sex is supposed to be a great gift from God--and most of us would love to experience it as that great gift! But often we never seem to want it. We want to want it--but our bodies don't seem to cooperate. Our minds don't seem to cooperate. We wish we could feel more...