"So you think it's okay if women just don't have sex, then?" Whenever we talk about how sex should be mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both, and that the obligation sex message is toxic, the reply we get is something along these lines--without obligation,...
What happens to your ability to orgasm after menopause? In the last few months I’ve talked to three women in my social circle who say that orgasm has completely stopped once they started menopause, though it was pretty easy before. For one woman it’s been ten years...
A healthy vagina is lubricated, supple, and elastic. It's supposed to be able to stretch (for obvious reasons, like both penetrative sex and childbirth), but then it's also supposed to go back into place afterwards. It's supposed to get lubricated and stay at least a...
Quitting porn needs to be something that changes you--not just something that allows you to avoid what you find really enticing. Last week on the podcast we were talking about how women are not methadone for their husbands' sin addictions. They can't just have sex...
You cannot defeat porn by becoming methadone for your husband's porn addiction. And yet that's exactly what Every Man's Battle tells women to do!"Your wife can be a methadone-like fix when your temperature is rising.” "Once he tells you he's going cold turkey, be like...
For twenty years now Christians have been inundated with news about "every man's battle" and how every man struggles with lust. But what if our approach is part of the problem? I believe that because we talk about how all men struggle with lust, we're creating the...
If we believe that men are insatiable sex machines who will want and need sex everyday, what happens when we marry and wives find their husbands are just human? This week, on our Bare Marriage podcast, we talked with Rachel Joy Welcher about her book Talking Back to...
I wonder: since we've grown up believing so much that men want sex all the time, then when he doesn't initiate sex, do women feel rejected? I'm not talking about the rejection that higher drive wives feel (that's real, and that's difficult, and I've got a series on...
Do alpha males always get the girl? The comic book character Archie was always your typical beta. So was Richie Cunningham from Happy Days, while Fonzie played more the alpha. And girls prefer bad boys! Don't they? Well, maybe the whole alpha and beta thing isn't that...
How can we define a sexually healthy man? I've just spent a year thinking about what it takes to be a sexually healthy woman--after doing our survey of over 20,000 women last winter! You'll see all about it in our upcoming book The Great Sex Rescue. But while I talk a...
When we think of porn, we tend to think "sin". (It's Sheila introducing this post, but I'm going to put Rebecca as the author since most of these are her words below!) When it comes to porn, what if there's more going on than just "sin"? What if an action can be...
"When I orgasm, it's okay, but it's not amazing or anything." I've heard that from many women in the comments this month, and Keith and I talked about one such reader question on the podcast last Thursday. I was actually going to launch a new series today on emotional...
I'm pretty sure that when most people start The Orgasm Course, they're going to head right to Module 4. That's where we talk about sexual technique and how to figure out arousal and orgasm! That's where we go over erogenous zones and how most women like to be touched...
Do you wonder if orgasm will ever happen for you? Or whether it will ever happen without a vibrator, or during intercourse? When I give my Girl Talk in churches (my sex talk for women!), I always pray over everyone at the end. And I try to mention in that prayer some...
Who doesn't want to have an orgasm? We've been talking all month about orgasms--why it can be difficult for women; what can hold some women back; what makes it more likely to happen.And it's all been leading up to today--the launch of the Orgasm Course!...