Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
PODCAST: I Belong to Me with Tia Levings
How do yo find yourself again after emerging from fundamentalism? Many of us have had religious trauma from our church upbringing, or a...
When Trauma from Sexual Dynamics in Marriage Hits You Decades Later
It's moving day for me! We're leaving our house of 19 years and heading to our new place! So I wanted to share something different today. So many...
Do Women Care about Men’s Appearance?
Are women visually oriented? What we usually hear in the church is that God made men to be visual (the Every Man's Battle authors say that God made...
PODCAST: Who Bears the Mental Load for Sex?
Women have a harder time enjoying sex--so why is the mental load left to her? Today on the podcast we play a bunch of clips of different...
How Eric and Leslie Ludy Equated the Rape of a 12-Year-Old with “Losing Her Virginity”
Eric and Leslie Ludy completely distort the trauma of sexual assault This husband and wife team (who got together first when he was 21 and she was...
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Hebrews 13:17: What to Do When Pastors Weaponize Scripture To Say You Must Obey Them
How did we get to the point where Scripture is so easily weaponized? Thank you to Zondervan for sponsoring this post. I mean, I suppose it always...
In the Love & Respect World, Isn’t the Wife ACTUALLY The Leader?
How did people fall for Love & Respect? Emerson Eggerichs' 2004 best-selling marriage book is honestly one of the worst books I've ever read....
PODCAST: Happily Never After–The Curious Case of Love and Respect
If Love & Respect is a Multiverse, Then This is Our Endgame Excuse the Marvel reference. I know it has been years since those superhero movies...
Why Emerson Eggerichs’ Love & Respect Presents an Unworkable Dichotomy
It's impossible for Emerson Eggerichs' ideas in Love & Respect to work in practice. Because what he tells men to do and what he tells women to...
Why It Matters that Jeffrey Epstein Recommended James Dobson
Jeffrey Epstein apparently found James Dobson useful. TW: I will be talking in generic terms about sexual abuse in this article, and mentioning...
PODCAST: To Heal Or Harm–Making Sense of the Weaponized Bible Verses
Scripture can be used to abuse people. But it can also be used to heal! Today Dr. Steven Tracy takes us through some of the most weaponized verses...
What If “Keeping the Peace” Hurts Long-Term?
What if keeping the peace seems safer--but it's actually riskier long-term?Sheila here! Those of you who read the blog regularly, and who follow me...
Revisiting Complementarianism and Authoritarianism in Light of Minneapolis
In January of 1994 I went to see Schindler's list in movie theatres. About two hours after watching it I had a miscarriage, losing my first...
Why Toxic Marriage Advice is Bad for Good Marriages Too: A Focus on the Family Case Study
Toxic marriage advice hurts those in abusive marriages. But it also hurts those in so-called good marriages–because bad advice is just plain bad...
What Does the Defence of Slavery Have to Do with Complementarianism?
with thanks to Zondervan and the book For the Love of Women for sponsoring this post. I remember the first time I heard a fellow Christian defend...
PODCAST: The 4 Types of Euphemisms With Sex That Drive Us Batty
Euphemisms about sex just make everything more difficult. And we want Christian pastors and authors to stop using them! And thank you to Zondervan...
Are You Feminine Enough for Your Uber Driver?
Women, are you helping the men around you be men? Last Friday, in our Round-Up video, Rebecca and I analyzed a new Desiring God article that was...
2-Step Plan to Tell if an Author or Pastor Is Qualified to Give Advice
We have a plague in the evangelical church of unqualified people giving dangerous advice. In our original study for The Great Sex Rescue (we’ve...
PODCAST: Celebrating Episode 300 with The Best of Becca!
I can't believe we're 300 episodes in to Bare Marriage! We began the podcast in January of 2019, and for the first dozen or so episodes it was just...
Are We Heading for a New Reformation?
There's a deep rumbling in the evangelical church right now. I've been saying for the last few years that God is shaking the church--and I'm feeling...
The 5-Point Faulty Foundation of Most Christian Marriage Books
In 2019 I started critiquing Christian marriage books. Until then, I had been writing and speaking in evangelical spaces, but I hadn’t read a lot of...
PODCAST: What does the Bible Say about Divorce for Abuse? feat. Helen Paynter
Does the Bible say divorce for abuse is okay? Lots of churches, and denominations, say no. You can only divorce for adultery, they say. But is that...
How Birthday Party Lady Is Showing the World Boundaries in Marriage
Don't let people use your house for a birthday party without telling your spouse. That's a pretty good rule for life! And right now, over on...
Making Patriarchy Pretty: How Christian Social Media Sells Patriarchy
The medium is the message. And when it comes to Christian patriarchy, the medium is super pretty right now! Marshall McLuhan, a Canadian...
PODCAST: Purity Culture, Rape Myths, and Porn
Let's take a look at some new research on purity culture! Today Rebecca and I explain two new studies, and then Joash Thomas joins me to talk about...
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Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!