Four months ago I had never heard of Ballerina Farm. When someone–I think my oldest daughter–told me about her social media account, I still couldn’t understand the name. It’s a farm for ballerinas? But as I’ve been hearing more and more about trad wife content,...
A few months ago, I went viral on Twitter when I shared that atrocious clip of Josh Howerton telling women to "do what he tells you to do" on "his" wedding night. Many of Howerton's supporters, and Howerton himself, said it was "just a joke." Sam Jolman, who was on...
At the end of April, Mica Miller died in very suspicious circumstances. She had been married to pastor JP Miller, and there were what look to me like credible allegations of abuse. She had been asking people for help, and had recently filed for divorce and a...
We know that women have a huge problem with sexual shame. Many men do, too, of course! But let's stick with women for a moment here, because when we were reading best-selling books to see trends of how they taught about sex, we noticed a pattern: Quite often men were...
Are you married to a controlling husband? I first ran this post back in 2016, but as we're moving over to our new domain next week, and taking only the posts from 2018 and forward, I wanted to make sure this one came with us! I refer to it a lot. If you're in...
My heart hurts when I hear stories of what happens when women (or children or men, for that matter) are made powerless. In about a week or so we'll be moving the blog over to a new domain, taking only the posts from 2018 with us. I have some posts from pre-2018...
There's been an alarming and disturbing conversation happening on social media lately about how women should choose death over being raped. An abuse advocate was talking to me about it, and how scary this trend was. I then began to see it all over Twitter, and became...
Can we talk about how our messages about a woman's role can actually undermine her safety? Just a quick catch-up for today's post! I want to share a few things I've seen on social media and then throw this open for discussion. I'm taking a bit of a downtime this week...
Unconditional respect isn't a thing. And yet we're often told that men need unconditional respect, just like women need unconditional love. It's summertime, so I'm taking a month off of recording new podcasts, and instead I'm going to highlight some of my favourites...
Can we talk about something hush hush? What if spanking kids is also a form of sexual assault? Hear me out on this one, okay? I've shared a number of social media posts and podcasts about spanking lately, including what the large meta-analysis of 160,000 children...
Let's face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult. That's Alyssa Wakefield's conclusion in Part 2 of her story on the Bare Marriage podcast! Listen to last week's episode, where she explains how she was groomed to obey her...
On Friday on his podcast, John Piper told a woman married to a harsh husband to just be gentle with him. Pray more. Remember it might be his personality. Win him with kindness. Show appreciation and call out the good in him. And don't talk to other people about it...
Many of us grew up with toxic faith. I just hope you know you can heal and grow! Did you all see the Humans of New York posts yesterday? Everyone was sending them to me! It was a 15-post story about a woman who "wasn't the first preacher's wife to run away." It's all...
What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to? Did you really consent to that marriage? And how does it even happen in North America today that girls are being pushed into arranged marriages? Today's podcast sounds...
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...