Why are so many evangelical authors trying to convince married women not to have sexual boundaries? In episode 260 of the Bare Marriage podcast, that dropped last week, Rebecca and I had one of my favourite convos so far, when we looked at how too many evangelical...
We know there's a great need for The Great Sex Rescue in Spanish. Every week I hear from women who are wondering about how to get our material to their friends/family members in Latin America, or in Latin American communities in the U.S. Love & Respect is...
I'm tired of being called uptight for not wanting pornified views of sex. The amazing Gisele Pelicot, who is genuinely a hero, has famously said "shame must switch sides." She's the woman whose husband arranged for almost 100 men to rape her while she was unconscious,...
We're in the middle of our Marriage Misdiagnosis series, talking about how often the church misdiagnoses the problems in marriage--and so offers the wrong solutions. Last week we looked at how often people are pressured to reconcile before trust has been rebuilt....
You guys! Guess what happened! Christianity Today actually covered The Great Sex Rescue--and it was phenomenal! A few weeks ago, just after we recorded the podcast about how the authors we critique have been either ignoring us or doubling down and saying awful things,...
One of the big things I believe is that we should hold Christians to higher standards than those who do not claim Christ. We don't get to say, "well, I don't have to follow the rules because after all, I'm doing this for Jesus." We don't get to say, "because I'm...
If we want great sex...we may need to look OUTSIDE the bedroom for answers! Here's a stat that I shared on social media last night about the correlation between arousal and emotional connection:It's just one stat in a bigger chart in The Great Sex Rescue--which has...
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our lives--how to honor our bodies' rhythms, with the need for work and rest; for feasting and fasting. And I thought today we could...
God created life with natural rhythms. But I feel like much of the effort of modern life is to obliterate those rhythms. Two things got me thinking about this lately, and I'd like to tell you about them and then explore this further. Exhibit A: I had COVID....
I do not believe that pastors need to be perfect. I absolutely believe that all of us are works in progress, and that we will always have areas where we need to grow. And I think it's a good idea, in general, for pastors to admit when they're still growing or where...
What is the story that Christian marriage books are writing? We know what they're telling--it's right there in the pages! But what if the books we read are also a part of writing our own stories? It's Rebecca here today (Sheila's down with COVID, she's doing fine...
What do you do when your husband is in the ministry and you catch him using porn? I wrote about this years ago, and wasn't planning on writing about it again, but last night I had this overwhelming urge to post this on Facebook:If you are married to someone in...
Let's talk obligation sex--and how it's a terrible libido and marriage killer! This July I'm rerunning some of my favourite podcast episodes from about a year and a half ago or two years ago, to help those who have recently joined the podcast or blog catch up and make...
Has Hollywood totally messed up our sex lives? I talk a lot about how evangelical teaching has messed up our expectations around sex. But let's face it--a lot of those expectations are in movies and shows, too!Behind the scenes at the blog we're getting ready to move...
For every guy who has ever thought, "my wife hates sex," or, even worse, "my wife hates ME," I want to point you to some practical solutions. Usually I write this blog for women, but I do have a fair number of men who read it, and I get emails all the time from men...