More sex does not fix a marriage. In our study of 20,000 women for The Great Sex Rescue, we found that more sex made good marriages great. Good sex, in a healthy marriage, definitely helps that marriage thrive. But sex can’t fix a bad marriage. And, indeed, having bad...
Should women get to have a say in when they have sex? I would think that the answer to this is pretty obvious. I don't have time for a long post today, but I want to talk about a social media trend that's been occurring, I think because of my obligation sex series. ...
Is there a way forward after obligation sex? If obligation sex has been the norm in your marriage, and if it's been affecting your libido and your marriage, what do you actually do about it? How do you recover from it? This month on the blog we've been looking at...
Sex would be so much easier if our bodies would just do what we want them to do, wouldn't it? Or if our minds would just get "in the game" when it was time? Welcome to our Embodiment Series, where we're talking about the mind-body connection. We're going to start in...
What happens if you want to have a great sex life and you want to embrace sex with freedom and passion, but the duty sex message is holding you back? I'm going to turn this post over to all of you today, because, quite frankly, I'm swamped. I have a manuscript due in...
How do you get beyond "obligation sex" or "duty sex" to find the freedom of embracing sex because you actually want to? We're in the middle of our debunking series on the blog, and every week we're debunking a different teaching that's been prevalent in evangelical...
What do husbands who care about their wife's pleasure and their wife's orgasm actually do? We're in the middle of our orgasm series, culminating in the release of our Orgasm Course next Monday (Yay!). Katie's frantically editing the last of the videos, and Rebecca's...
Does your marriage feel "sexy"? Or does it feel "safe"? "Routine"? "Boring"? There's nothing wrong with safe. There's nothing even wrong with routine! But let's face it: sometimes you just want to get sexy back again. Note: This post contains some affiliate links. In...
If you're faking orgasm or fantasizing while you make love, should you confess to your husband? Wow. That's a tough one! We're getting to the end of our sex questions series, and I wanted to tackle one that I haven't talked about in a few years. A woman asks:Should I...
Out of the last five times you've made love, how many times have you initiated sex with your husband, and how many has he been the one to initiate? If you say he's initiated all 5, that could be a problem! Now, I know sometimes you just start making love because...
Want some sexy questions to ask your husband to get the party started? You’ve come to the right place! I'm getting ready for a big series in June when we're going to talk about emotional labor and mental load, and we've been talking about some pretty heavy things on...
What happens if we tell women that husbands are entitled to sex--no matter what? I'm a big proponent of sex in marriage. Most of what I write is about sex. I have a revamped version of 31 Days to Great Sex coming out this summer with Zondervan. I've created a course...
Is it ever OK for a husband to ask his wife to act like other women in order to be sexier? On Monday I asked what your thoughts were on a reader's question about her husband wanting her to be more sexy, and you had a lot of great thoughts! So thank you for...
When it comes to sex, are there some things that are best kept to yourself?So it's Tuesday, and I still can't type.(In fact, this is actually Rebecca writing out the post on Sheila's behalf again.)Normally we get our posts scheduled a few days ahead of time. But on...
When you discover that your husband is cheating on you, or using pornography, should you forgive right away and work on rebuilding the marriage? Or if you discover that your wife is cheating on you, should you put that aside for the sake of the marriage and work on...