Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
Problems with The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace: A Review
ONE OF THE THINGS WE’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT ON THIS BLOG IS MAKING SURE THE SELF-HELP AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE IN THE EVANGELICAL WORLD IS HEALTHY. Over...
10 Reasons Christian Parents Have a Hard Time Giving up Spanking
Spanking your children is not good for them. A huge meta-analysis by Elizabeth Gershoff, done in 2016 of 160,000 children, found that spanking was...
A Review of the Kingdom Girls’ Bible–It’s Awesome!
With thanks to Zonderkidz for sponsoring this post. When my girls were small, one of their biggest pet peeves with church was that they always did...
PODCAST: The Well-Trained Wife with Tia Levings
What happens to your marriage when you get dragged into fundamentalism? Tia Levings went to a flagship SBC church. She wasn’t supposed to get sucked...
How the Conversation about Lust Has Changed in Seven Years
Seven summers ago I told the truth about lust for the first time. I broke with the program. Up until then, my main focus on the blog had been how to...
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Are Obligation Sex and Marital Rape the Same Thing?
Is all obligation sex necessarily rape? As we’ve been talking about obligation sex this month, starting with 10 things you need to know about...
Why Complementarian / Egalitarian Labels Matter: A Response to Nancy Pearcey
Do complementarian men make the best husbands? Last June and July I was really burned out. I had been engaging in a Twitter back and forth with...
PODCAST: Do Complementarian Men Make the Best Husbands? A Response to Nancy Pearcey
Do complementarian men do best? That's what Nancy Pearcey says in her new book The Toxic War on Masculinity! Men who believe that marriage is a...
Jill Duggar’s Counting the Cost: When Christianity Has No Christ
I love Jill Duggar's authenticity in her new memoir Counting the Cost. I love Jill Duggar's (or Jill Dillard's!) growth that she shows in Counting...
Why Obligation Sex Wrecks Your Libido
Can feelings of sexual obligation affect your libido long-term? This month we're talking about obligation sex. We started last week by noting 10...
No More Power Struggles! Parenting with Discipline that Connects
We know that parenting is the biggest responsibility we will ever have. But we've been told such different things about the nature of that...
PODCAST: Untwisting Toxic Views of Suffering feat. Rebecca Davis
Should we endure suffering because it makes us holy? We have a distorted view of suffering in the church today, and it keeps so many women feeling...
OBLIGATION SEX SERIES: 10 Things to Know about Obligation Sex
Obligation Sex is the idea that a wife is obligated to have sex when her husband wants to. It’s that simple. It was one of the beliefs that we...
PODCAST: Celebrities for Jesus Plus Who Do We Follow? with Katelyn Beaty
Evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity culture. I mean, everyone has a problem with celebrity culture. But it can be worse in the church...
Which Comes First: Great Sex or Emotional Connection?
If we want great sex...we may need to look OUTSIDE the bedroom for answers! Here's a stat that I shared on social media last night about the...
When We Said Women Were Hurt, They Said We Were Gaslighters
Sheila here! When I was planning last week's podcast looking at how the authors and organizations that we critiqued in The Great Sex Rescue had...
Let’s Talk About Beard-Gate
Why is the Desiring God website writing about beards? Sheila here! My husband Keith got fired up in the last few weeks looking at what was...
Want Women Free of Sexual Shame? Stop Infantilizing Us!
We know that women have a huge problem with sexual shame. Many men do, too, of course! But let's stick with women for a moment here, because when we...
Podcast: How Have the Authors We Critiqued Responded to The Great Sex Rescue
One of the most frequent questions I've had since The Great Sex Rescue was published has been: "Have any of the authors responded to your...
When Your Dreams Don’t Come True
Have you ever had dreams that didn't come true? We've just moved all of our posts from my previous site at To Love, Honor and Vacuum over to...
Celebrate with Me! To Love, Honor and Vacuum is Now Bare Marriage!
We've finally made the move, and To Love, Honor and Vacuum is now rebranded Bare Marriage! Connor has been working on this for a few months now, and...
Why Women Want an Equal Partner
This has been a strange week on the blog and social media, with a bunch of new male commenters flooding this space complaining about women. The...
PODCAST: The Rise of Lonely Men–Plus How to Be Inspiring
We've got some wonderful inspiring stories to share with you today--plus a new research study with implications for dating. This month on the...
8 Reasons to Go To Bed Before You’re Tired
What if there's something super simple you could do that could improve your mood and your marriage? I talked on Monday about rhythms in our...
Can We Honor Our Bodies’ Rhythms? And Why that May Mean Saying No to Sex Sometimes
God created life with natural rhythms. But I feel like much of the effort of modern life is to obliterate those rhythms. Two things got me thinking...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!












Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!