We know there's a great need for The Great Sex Rescue in Spanish. Every week I hear from women who are wondering about how to get our material to their friends/family members in Latin America, or in Latin American communities in the U.S. Love & Respect is...
I'm tired of being called uptight for not wanting pornified views of sex. The amazing Gisele Pelicot, who is genuinely a hero, has famously said "shame must switch sides." She's the woman whose husband arranged for almost 100 men to rape her while she was unconscious,...
What if a guy is struggling with lust, but honestly wants to do better? But at the same time, he finds that when he’s out in public, he DOES immediately focus on women’s body parts or imagine them naked. He doesn’t want to. He’s in counseling. He’s trying to stop it....
Let's talk about what influences your felt libido--what triggers you to want sex, and what triggers you to not want sex. We're starting our "What's Killing Women's Libido"? series, and on Monday we launched it looking at 15 things that can kill a woman's libido. Those...
I've got an awesome example of how stats can be misused today! And why it's important when we hear someone who isn't trained in statistics using studies to "prove" their point, when the point sounds like a stretch, to actually check their sources. In February, Dallas...
Welcome to the "what's killing women's libido?" series! In the month of June I want to look at some of the reasons that women's libido is often so low, and look at what we can do about that. Now, I know that many of you reading this blog have the opposite...
If you think 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 is a command for women to have sex on demand with their husbands, you've lost the plot. And not just that, but you have no business leading an SBC (Southern Baptist Convention) seminary where future SBC pastors are trained. But that's...
What if male Christian authors are digging the very hole they're trying to climb out of--and killing women's libido? Welcome to June, everybody! And in June, our focus is going to be on libido, asking the question: "What's killing women's libido?" Now, I know there's...
Can we have a nuanced discussion about porn and the likelihood of recovery? One of our goals for what we do is to help people have "informed consent"--in other words, before they make a decision, they need to know all the facts. We can't be afraid of data and...
What if both purity culture and the hookup culture are teaching people to treat sex with dissociation and disconnection?Sheila here! Today I'm proud to turn the blog over to Sam Jolman, a licensed counselor in Colorado who is passionate about promoting a healthy idea...
Just a super quick post today on why "equality" sometimes misses the boat when it comes to sexual pleasure. I use Tuesdays either to take a day off from writing the blog, or to share something super quick that's on my mind and I just want to write it out. I'm hoping...
God does not ask us to consent to selfish sex. In fact, one-sided intercourse is not sex. I can summarize The Great Sex Rescue by saying that sex is supposed to be MUTUAL, INTIMATE, and PLEASURABLE FOR BOTH. That's what God intended. Sex is not merely intercourse...
For the last three years I've been trying to change the evangelical conversation about sex. I've been pointing out how we went so very far off track with so much of our messaging in our best-sellers--focusing on men's satisfaction and ignoring women's; seeing sex as a...
Baptist News covered The Great Sex Rescue--and had a great interview with a pastor! One of our frustrations with publicity for The Great Sex Rescue is that mainstream American Christian outlets (magazines, websites, radio shows, etc.) won't cover it. In other...
How many Christian husbands see sex in a healthy way? We know that sexual sin, and porn use, and objectification of women are rampant. But it's not everywhere. So how many guys aren't affected by this? In February and March I'm posting several "number of the day"...