Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
Was Every Man’s Battle an Improvement on What Came Before?
"Sure it was harmful--but it was still an improvement!" Or was it? That's the pushback that I often get when I critique evangelical sex and marriage...
How Evangelical Sex Teachings Obscured the Red Flags in Death of a Pastor’s Wife
The strangest thing about watching Netflix’s Death of a Pastor’s Wife is how familiar it all feels. Our family has been attending an Anglican Church...
PODCAST: If Men Are the Protectors, Why Do They Want Women to Do Risky Things?
When women are vulnerable, abuse can flourish And it's a problem that so much advice to evangelical women today is aimed at making women extremely...
Sexual Double Standards: We Expect So Much More from Women Than From Men–Which leads to Male Entitlement
Evangelicalism has huge double standards of sexual expectations in marriage. One of the things we tried to drive home in The Marriage You Want is...
Why Does Evangelicalism Pit Husbands Against Babies?
One of the most common pieces of marriage advice you’ll hear in evangelical circles is “your husband comes before the kids.” It’s constant, and...
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PODCAST: If Men Are Leaders, Why Do They Need Women to Fix Them?
Ever noticed how much evangelical marriage advice treats men like little boys? And the solution that helps men mature and grow up is women? But...
The Story of Two Pastors Defending Marital Rape
I'm often surprised what sexist pastors will say in public comments on social media. This week I've been posting quite a bit on Facebook about the...
How The Navigators Normalized Marital Rape
Let's look at how specific discipleship materials actually enable marital rape. But first, a bit of background. Last week on my Substack I re-ran a...
PODCAST: What Would Accountability for Purity Culture Authors Look Like?
Will we ever hear an apology from Dannah Gresh and others? We're wrapping up our 3-episode arc on the Bare Marriage podcast this week, looking at...
How Do You Measure the “Good Fruit” of Marriage Teaching?
Evangelical marriage teachers are changing the meaning of “good fruit” when it comes to marriage teaching—largely because of us. We’ve successfully...
PODCAST: Good Fruit–Are We Measuring It Right When it Comes to Christian Marriage Teaching?
How do you actually measure the "good fruit" of marriage teaching? Over the last little while, we've been criticized for saying that it's good fruit...
Purity Culture Authors Need to Apologize. Here’s Why They Won’t.
We had four lawsuit threats the week that The Great Sex Rescue was published. Authors were upset that we had quoted their works and showed them in a...
PODCAST: Purity Culture Authors Are Rewriting History (Case Study of Dannah Gresh)
Dannah Gresh is Rewriting And the Bride Wore White. But is she apologizing for all the harmful things she wrote before? Is she acknowledging that...
PODCAST: Let’s Talk Men of Virtue with Zachary Wagner
What is healthy masculinity? We hear a ton about toxic masculinity, and our guest today has written a book on Non-Toxic Masculinity before too! But...
Al Mohler, Women Podcast Hosts, and the Slippery Slope of Complementarianism
Complementarians often warn about the slippery slope of egalitarianismFor the last few years, the Southern Baptist Convention has been trying to get...
Why Complementarianism Depends on Keeping Women in a Bubble
Complementarianism is threatened when women see there are alternatives. I've got some quick new findings for you today, and then some birthday...
PODCAST: When Your Parenting Needs a Fresh Start feat. Wendy Snyder
Many of us are starting from scratch with parenting. We were raised in James Dobson, authoritarian type households, and we know we don't want that...
Why the Bare Marriage Research Studies Are So Ground-Breaking (And You Can Trust Them!)
There's been a big uptick lately of men especially on social media accusing us of having biased research in our study of 20,000 women. I don't...
Evangelical Advice Saying Expectations in Marriage are Sinful Is Crazy-Making
A funny thing happened last week for Mother’s Day. The Gospel Coalition, a rather mainstream evangelical organization founded by the late Tim Keller...
PODCAST: Why the Billy Graham Rule Hurts Men Too
The Billy Graham Rule sexualizes everyone--and isn't biblical. There's nothing in the Bible that says that we can't have healthy relationships with...
Why Understanding Obligation Sex Is Bad Doesn’t Fix Things On Its Own
Recovery from obligation sex begins with understanding autonomy and consent. It begins with understanding it was never God's will for one person to...
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to...
Casual Sex the Christian Way
In Christian marriage advice, sex is supposed to be deeply intimate--until it's not. Here's what happens: Before marriage, Christians are told that...
PODCAST: The Problems with For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!
Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!