Every month on the blog, I like to focus on a particular topic.
It doesn’t mean that every post in that month has to do with that topic, but often I have more to say on something than just one post will allow, and so I dedicate a month to go more in-depth.
In August, we’ve been talking about periods! But I’ve also tackled emotional labor, MBTI personalities, birth control, submission in marriage, and so much more.
I know some of you have joined the blog only relatively recently, and so you may not have had time to delve into some of the series that I’ve done in the past. Since there’s an extra Monday in August, I thought I’d post my most recent series, so that you all can peruse and catch up if there’s a topic you’ve missed. And the other posts in each series should be listed at the bottom of these posts, too.
Have fun!
Why Understanding Obligation Sex Is Bad Doesn’t Fix Things On Its Own
Recovery from obligation sex begins with understanding autonomy and consent. It begins with understanding it was never God's will for one person to...
PODCAST: For Men Only by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn Talk Lust and Sex!
This time we're looking at lust & sex in For Men Only! It's Part 2 of our deep dive into the book For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn, and...
Why the Patriarchy-Egalitarian Spectrum Is Deceptive: Egalitarianism is the Middle!
I’m often accused of swinging the pendulum to the other extreme. Note: this article appeared on my Substack last week, and I wanted it here to to...
Casual Sex the Christian Way
In Christian marriage advice, sex is supposed to be deeply intimate--until it's not. Here's what happens: Before marriage, Christians are told that...
PODCAST: The Problems with For Men Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn
For Men Only presents such a sad view of marriage! Written by Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff, it's a companion book for her best-seller For...
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How Eric and Leslie Ludy Equated the Rape of a 12-Year-Old with “Losing Her Virginity”
Eric and Leslie Ludy completely distort the trauma of sexual assault This husband and wife team (who got together first when he was 21 and she was...
What If There’s More Jesus in Decluttering Shows Than in Some Churches?
Sometimes Jesus shows up in weird places--like cleaning shows. I want to do something different today and let you in a bit on my personal faith...
PODCAST: How to Vet a Church’s Website to See if They’re Healthy
Can you tell from a church's website if they're healthy? Not necessarily. But you sure can weed out a lot of unhealthy ones! So if you're trying to...
A Step-By-Step Guide to Vetting a Church’s Website to See if It’s Healthy
Can you tell if a church is healthy using its website? Absolutely! Or at least you can make a pretty good start and eliminate a lot of obviously...
What I’ve Noticed About Scripture in Evangelical vs. Anglican Churches
I've been thinking about the lectionary this Easter holiday. It's still a holiday here in Canada, and I'll be taking most of the day to relax and...
PODCAST: Why Is Every Man’s Battle So Creepy? Plus Benevolent vs. Hostile Sexism
Every Man's Battle Prioritizes Predators over Victims It's horrifying--and you won't understand how bad it is until you see it with your own eyes....
Why Can’t the Every Man’s Battle Authors Acknowledge Sexual Assault Victims? 2 Horrifying Examples
Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker ignore abuse victims in Every Man's Battle. They never talk about the reality of sexual abuse, or acknowledge that...
NEW RESEARCH: Modesty Messages Groom Boys to Become Predators
Teaching modesty messages makes church more dangerous for teen girls. That's what our newest paper, out in the Journal for the Scientific Study of...
PODCAST: You’re Allowed to Want Stuff! Desire, Libido and More with Jay Stringer
What if our desires make us fully human? And what if they're what give us our individuality? Jay Stringer joins us on the podcast today to talk...
Can Complementarians Please Stop Using the “You’re Equal to Your Boss” Analogy?
Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post.My husband Keith and I talk a lot behind the scenes about the theology...
PODCAST: Famished–How Purity culture Taught Girls to Shrink with Anna Rollins
What if purity culture taught you to shrink? And you did--literally? I read Anna Rollins' book Famished lately, and I was so enthralled by her...
The Misleading TActics used to Keep Women Down in Evangelicalism
So much Christian teaching is dedicated to keeping men in power over women. I don't think that's of Christ. I know it bears bad fruit (we've...
Does Waiting for Marriage for Sex Increase the Chance for Painful Sex?
Does waiting for marriage for sex increase sexual pain disorders? In short, yes. We found this in our survey of 20,000 women for our book The Great...
PODCAST: What We Uncovered Making the Love & Respect Docuseries
The Love & Respect Docuseries has been a long time in the making! While Rebecca and Joanna have been working nonstop for the last few months,...
Love & Respect Part 3: When Hurt People Hurt People
Pastors should not be writing books until they've dealt with their trauma. And even then, they shouldn't write the book based on how they dealt with...
Why You Can’t Say: “This Advice Isn’t Meant for Those in Abusive Marriages”
Thank you to Zondervan and the book To Heal or Harm for sponsoring this post Often when we point out advice is harmful people respond with "but it's...
PODCAST: Bad Stats, Editing the Bible, and Recycling 1970s Ideas: A Love & Respect Deep Dive Part 2
What if Love & Respect is Based on a Faulty Foundation? Love & Respect is based on shoddy data; misrepresented research; edited Bible...
Hebrews 13:17: What to Do When Pastors Weaponize Scripture To Say You Must Obey Them
How did we get to the point where Scripture is so easily weaponized? Thank you to Zondervan for sponsoring this post. I mean, I suppose it always...
In the Love & Respect World, Isn’t the Wife ACTUALLY The Leader?
How did people fall for Love & Respect? Emerson Eggerichs' 2004 best-selling marriage book is honestly one of the worst books I've ever read....
PODCAST: Happily Never After–The Curious Case of Love and Respect
If Love & Respect is a Multiverse, Then This is Our Endgame Excuse the Marvel reference. I know it has been years since those superhero movies...
Are there any other topics you’d like me to cover? Let me know in the comments!









Great round up! I’m looking forward to reading these. 🙂
Since you asked what we would like to see in a series:
Getting your marriage back on track after it has been derailed by (fill in the blank, and maybe this changes depending on what derailed it)
The emotional and perspective issues for newlyweds. Sorry if this is hard to describe, but I think a lot of newlyweds, especially younger ones, start marriage with ideas like:
the wedding is a big party
your first loyalty is still to your family of origin
this is just a more permanent version of a dating relationship where God allows us to have sex
it’s okay to disagree in public or in front of the kids
if your friends and family have always given you good advice, you should continue to turn to them for advice (even if it has the effect of putting marital decisions up to a popular vote)
I would love something about how and when to give marriage advice to friends. When is it appropriate to mention if you feel like something is off and how to bring that up.
Oh, that’s a great idea for a series! About how to support marriages in your circle/community, and support people when something is really off. Maybe for December when we’re talking about family? I’ll put that in the docket!